The wife's younger sister wants to. A dangerous relative is the wife's sister. What can this lead to

One day a woman turned, suspecting that her husband was experiencing sexual attraction and erotic desires not only for her, but also for her younger sister, who was 22 at that time.

And since sex with my wife’s sister happens more often than we think, I’ll tell you what it might actually be. Can a husband dream of making love with his own sister's sister?

The answer is yes, of course! Sex with the wife's younger sister is a common male fantasy. You can, of course, sleep with the older one, but still men would rather prefer the younger one, if there is one.

What? If everyone lives in the same apartment, then the man sees another young woman constantly. Sometimes not quite dressed, sometimes slightly drunk. And it happens that they are alone in the apartment. Anything can happen here.

Think for yourself: the wife's sleeping sister can open up in a dream. Or he can walk around the house in a transparent nightie. Not even with the aim of seducing her sister's husband, but because she is so used to it. There is nothing sexy about it for her.

And if there is ... Women love to be paid attention to. Most girls are pleased to be wanted and to catch the glances of men they please.

And the man feels quite free with his wife's sister, without unnecessary ceremony. Even in small apartments and in small kitchens, physical contact happens. All this can provoke a case of sex or even an affair with the wife's sister.

Well, it seems, everything is clear with men. There is an affordable, young body nearby, and, of course, few men will refuse to take advantage of this. Moreover, interest is mixed here - how is she in sex? Does the wife's sister behave in bed in the same way or in some other way?

And what about the younger and older sisters themselves? How do they feel about an intimate relationship with someone else's husband?

Relationships between sisters are very often very competitive, and a sister can with great pleasure seduce her own sister's husband. Or not much to object if he shows his sympathy for her.

In our country, of course, this may cause misunderstanding and protest, but it happens. And, one must think, not so rare. Sisters are often given to the husbands of their married sisters. They also often dream of having sex with a man whom they constantly see and who are not badly treated.

But even if the man didn’t come to having sex with his wife’s sister, then he certainly has erotic fantasies about it.

If you listened to men's stories about fantasies on this topic, you would be convinced that the desire to sleep with the wife's sister is a fairly common male dream. A man can look for legal excuses for bodily contact: to propose if a girl is in pain. Or he may offer to watch the video together, knowing that there are explicit scenes and so on.

Of course, there are very loyal men who will not look in the direction of another woman, but, let's be honest, there are not so many such men.

Sexual attraction to an older or younger sister of your own wife is a controversial issue. What is the root of this desire? Does the husband just want to have sex with another woman, or is there something else?

After all, the wife's sister is not just another woman. The man is very turned on by the fact that they are sisters and that he slept with both of them. And if he didn’t sleep, he fantasized what it would be like.

Even more men would like to sleep with two of them at the same time. I have often heard such sex fantasies from clients:

In my fantasies, I have repeatedly fucked my wife's sister in every and every corner of the apartment. In reality, this was not, but as soon as I see her in panties, coming out of the bath ... Then I imagine myself pulling these panties off her and ... But I began to have sex with my wife more often, because her sister's appearance in our house gave just a powerful surge of testosterone!

My fetish is my wife's sleeping sister. She is so cute and funny when she sleeps. I get wildly aroused when I see her sleeping. She has a walk-through room, and on the way to the kitchen or to the bath, you always walk past her bed. And you often think what's under the covers. I really want her. But it's awkward in front of my wife. A couple of times he imperceptibly masturbated, looking at her asleep. And in sex with my wife, I often imagine her sister.

One day my wife's sister came to visit us in frustrated feelings. There was only me. She complained about her ex, sobbed on my shoulder. And then she kissed the lips. There was nothing I could do. I understood that this was wrong, but she was so pressed against me, and my dick was so hard on her that I immediately fucked her. I don't know what to do now.

I found my wife's sister naked at night in the kitchen. She stood by the refrigerator and ate something. Nude, slim, with firm breasts. She smiled, closed the refrigerator, and went to her room, but passing by, smiled and stroked my penis. I can't get her out of my head now.

Etc. I have brought these stories from sexological practice so that you understand that this may sound amazing to you, but sex psychologists know that this happens often.

From the psychological aspects, the desire for total possession of a wife is also added here. The man is pleased that he not only had sex with his own wife as soon as possible, but even possessed her own sister.

Yes, sisters for some reason are much more desirable than some cousins.

A man, probably, would not refuse a cousin, but this is almost like just a fantasy about having sex with another woman. Here, for a man, the value of precisely the fact that this is a sister is reduced.

Of course, we don't often hear sex stories and stories of this kind. few people want to take it outside the family, but there are such cases.

That is why, if there is such an opportunity, it would be better for a young family to live separately from other relatives.

However, it is also not very recommended to invite unmarried girlfriends to visit, drink with them at home, and leave them at home overnight.

And then in the absence of a sister, sex with his wife's friend will do.

God forbid, all this will bypass you, but it is better to have this information in order to understand what is worth fearing. Well, with all psychological and sexological questions, please contact! I will be glad to be of service to you!

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The wedding leads not only to the creation of a new "cell of society", but also to the acquisition of numerous relatives, in which you can sometimes get confused. If the bride lived in a huge family before marriage, then you need to learn several new concepts in order to understand which of her many relatives are in question. For example, who is the wife's sister to the newly-made husband? What is the name of this new family bond? The wife's sister bears a very affectionate name - "sister-in-law".

What does sister-in-law mean

The word has existed in Russian since ancient times. It says that a woman is her own, that is, she needs to be looked at as a loved one, and not as a possible subject of harassment. Most likely, the concept is connected with the fact that in Russian childbirth a man had to take care not only of his wife and children, but also of all relatives (both his own and from his wife) who have no other male support in life. Therefore, the wife's own sister, unmarried or widow, after the death of her own father passed into the sister's clan and enjoyed the patronage of the head of the clan before marriage. She is "her own", that is, dear, although she was not a relative of a man by blood.

Features of the position of the sister-in-law in Muslim families

For Muslims, where one can have many wives, the wife's sister cannot be regarded as another bride. This is denoted by the concept "not mahram", that is, a stranger's woman. She should not show a man living with her sister, her face, stay with him tete-a-tete. But she will not be able to marry him either, since this is prohibited by the Koran. That is, the rights of a sister-in-law in Muslim families are twofold. On the one hand, on the other hand, they are not entirely their own for the head of the clan.

The dangers of relationships

For people who truly love each other, there is no reason to worry that someone else might interfere with their family. But it was not in vain that the wise ancestors gave such clear kinship definitions, which were intended to initially set up a man so that he would not look at his sister-in-law as a woman. The wife's sister usually spends a lot of time with her relatives, her age is about the same as that of her husband, which can lead to not quite kindred feelings. Therefore, a certain moderation and tact in behavior is required from each participant in such a relationship.

Advice: it is best for the young husband to immediately begin to treat all members of his wife's family as his relatives. This also applies to young sisters. To do this, you need to arrange joint holidays or trips so that people get to know each other better, overcome the dangerous psychological threshold when "interest" arises. When the wife's sister is perceived as her own sister, then she wants to help, but not as an interesting attractive woman, but as a relative.

If your sister-in-law is married

The wife's sister is a sister-in-law for the young husband. And her husband is called a very voluminous word - "brother-in-law." It is somehow closer to men. It also comes from the word "own", therefore it immediately gives rise to trust in the brain of a strong half of humanity. In-laws usually become friends, sometimes partners. Male relationships based on wives are very strong, naturally, if women are wise enough to appreciate and support them. In-law children are nephews.

Knowledge and understanding is now becoming popular and even fashionable. This is very good, in the sense that big friendly families make each of their members happier, give a feeling of confidence and protection!

No language has so many names for relatives as in Russian. It's not even worth talking about the banal father-in-law, mother-in-law, brother-in-law and son-in-law, everyone knows who it is. But did you know, for example, that the husbands of two sisters are brothers-in-law, and the wives of two brothers are yatrovs? It is interesting that in the Russian language there are very apt and sarcastic proverbs and sayings reflecting difficult relationships within the family. For example: “city kumas are arrogant”, “babble that mother-in-law”, “mother-in-law has skinny pockets”.

But today we will focus on one relative - this is the husband's sister, or sister-in-law. Do you know how they have long spoken about the husband's sister? Sister-in-law is a spite or sister-in-law is a reel! And they also used to say: "my sister-in-law's speeches are like a thorn." How did this relative deserve such an attitude towards herself?

A husband and wife's sister almost always have a difficult relationship. This is the same well-known conflict as in the “mother-in-law-son-in-law” or “mother-in-law-daughter-in-law” relationship. At the same time, the wives usually consider themselves to be the suffering party: they are convinced that sisters-in-law allow themselves to interfere in the spouses' personal life, in their everyday life, in the sphere of raising children and managing the family budget. At the same time, the sister-in-law themselves are often perplexed: they sincerely believe that they have every right to do so. That is why wives usually keep communication with their sister-in-law to a minimum, or at least try to do it. And even the need for a husband once or twice a year turns into a real problem, conflicts are so acute.

The reason for this situation is a banal misunderstanding of the parties, unwillingness to accept each other's position. The injured party is usually the husband. Let's try to understand what lies at the heart of this misunderstanding.

A husband's sister may treat her brother differently. Firstly, she can associate herself with her mother (older sister or simply more mature as a person). In this case, she will treat her brother kindly and condescendingly and allow herself to interfere in his life. The degree of this interference will depend on her tact and how much she is allowed to do so. Also, the husband's sister can project the image of the father onto her brother, trying on the role of the protector. Consequently, she will claim her rights to his participation in her life, while not at all taking into account his changed. Often such a situation in the wife is associated with complete selfishness, but sometimes the sister-in-law simply did not have time to realize all the changes. Another problem in this situation is that the husband's sister continues to use his things and money, in no way reckoning with the brother's wife. Remember how they said - "sister-in-law-reel". This is the aspect of the issue at issue: the husband's sister still believes that she has the right to use her brother's money (his apartment, car, dacha, etc.) as her own things. Her position is easy to understand: she is used to doing it, and is not going to change her habits for the sake of some "outside" woman.

The most neutral option is the friendship between the sister and brother. But in this case, conflicts arise, most often because of banal jealousy. Moreover, her husband's sister can be jealous of a new woman in her brother's life, and her husband's wife can be jealous of her relatives in general and her sister-in-law in particular.

Is there a way out of this situation? I would like to say that there is, but this is not entirely true. In order to avoid such a development of events, it is necessary that both sides of the conflict abstract from emotions, which is practically impossible. Still, you should at least try to take a step towards each other: talk, try to understand, identify the most acute moments. This must be done, otherwise one of two things will happen: either one woman will lose her husband, or the other will lose her brother.

Psychologists' Answers

Sergey Voronin

Tell me is it ok or not? And how can I continue to be?

Sergey, everything happens. You quarreled with your wife, under the influence of this emotionally what happened. There is no point in evaluating this - it happens.

The question is different. Apparently, your emotions, guilt, shame - all this should and can push you to a serious solution to problems in the family.

Sergey Voronin

i think not for long, tk. it happens with us, and after a while we are together again.

It's not okay to constantly solve problems by breaking up. Because they don't dare. You part, it seems like the heat is subsiding, but the problem is not solved and the quarrel with parting arises again. And then, some kind of quarrel risks becoming the last. Problems are not solved, but only accumulate.

Solve problems with your wife constructively - talk, find out what causes quarrels, how to reach a compromise, perhaps something is missing in sex - there will not even be a situation in which such a betrayal can occur.

And if you do not want to continue the story with your sister, you should talk to her, discuss what you feel wrong, that there will be no repetition, that you ... ask yourself a question - what would you like further from this situation and try to negotiate. Don't just blame yourself / her. In reality, this will lead nowhere ...

How to solve family conflicts: http://psyhelp24.org/conflict-resolution/

How you can look for variety in sex after years of marriage: http://psyhelp24.org/raznoobrazit-seks-v-brake/

Best regards, A. Nesvitsky, consultations, psychotherapy in St. Petersburg and in skype

Hello Sergey! It is strange to talk heart to heart and cry in the vest at the wife of a girl who likes it in secret. Moreover, this girl is his wife's sister. Not a friend, not a brother, but ....... I think you have fulfilled your desires, which came from the subconscious attraction that you have always crushed, as Freud said. How to continue to be? Carry it to a psychologist for study and deal with your feelings and attachments, as well as with secret desires and shame. Having worked through this, you can calmly look into the eyes of your wife's sister, your wife, and into your soul. Good luck,

Olga Zamaziy, psychologist of Kemerovo